How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

  • Опубликовано: Год назад

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    Длительность: 17:36

    Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

McGee Family
McGee Family

This is exactly what I was needing right now. 💙💚

Час назад
Phyllis Windes
Phyllis Windes

I needed this! So I plan to send it with the acknowledgement that it really helped me. Hopefully my admission will diffuse any hurt feelings in the receiver.

5 часов назад
Dave DFW
Dave DFW

4.3k people took it personally

6 часов назад
Lena Tsering
Lena Tsering

Very helpful And down-to-Earth practicable!

9 часов назад
Frank Woms
Frank Woms

Joy runs in my heart, I am totally free from Herpes after many years of trying so many medications no result. I am now negative after using the herbal medications I got from Dr. Umoru on YouTube.

11 часов назад
Kelly Moo
Kelly Moo

14:30 :"

14 часов назад
Tarun Verma
Tarun Verma

Well the good thing is don't be over attentive about people Rather focus upon Ur work Be attentive about it

14 часов назад
180-Shreya Gupta
180-Shreya Gupta

this was so so good ! thank you for your values. its just so motivating

14 часов назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi 180-Shreya Gupta, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

12 часов назад
Beweave
Beweave

I already had the first strategy down but I always felt that it wasn't enough and now that I've seen the rest of the methods I feel more equipped to give it another go. thank you for this

17 часов назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Beweave, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

12 часов назад
Peter Lewis
Peter Lewis

I couldn't watch because of the tinnitus-like sound

19 часов назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Peter. Sorry to read that there was a highly picked droning that disturbed you so much. I have no idea where it came from. Could you try to listen to my talk with another device and tell me whether you have still the same? It's so strange. Only a minority of people apparently hear that annoying noise. Hopefully you'll be able to listen to it properly on another device without any hassle.

12 часов назад
Benjamin
Benjamin

And if someone tries to murder you don't take it personally and let them achieve their aim

21 час назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Benjamin. What do you think yourself of your question? Of course you'll do anything in your power to prevent to be killed.

12 часов назад
Joshua McCrae
Joshua McCrae

So basically... don't be Michael Jordan?

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

basically don't think like he's thinking about this yes.

12 часов назад
Sherry Denny
Sherry Denny

Thank you so much. Needed this right about now.

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Sherry, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

12 часов назад
broskisephine
broskisephine

about to send this to my friend XD

День назад
broskisephine
broskisephine

@Frederik Imbo i loved your talk, thanks for hosting one!! :)

5 часов назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Broskisephine, I hope that he or she liked it and it was valuable for them.

12 часов назад
Sid Dodge
Sid Dodge

Exellent

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Thanks Sid Dodge.

12 часов назад
Dinesh Singh
Dinesh Singh

Nice

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Thank you Dinesh.

12 часов назад
Darsh Ranasinghe
Darsh Ranasinghe

What a way to complete the speech.

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Darsh. Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

12 часов назад
Souta
Souta

omg that last scene make me rethink my life

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Souta. Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

12 часов назад
miko
miko

I will save you around 17 minutes and tell straight away. You will stop taking things personally once you stop believing you are the most important person in the world and the universe. You are someone but yet nobody essential.

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Miko. I agree. We're not the centre of the universe. Our ego thinks we are. But in fact, we're just a tiny part of it.

12 часов назад
Mercide
Mercide

What is our value? What is it if the world's system tells us its performance, intelligence, the amount of money you own? How do we not lose our value if that is what the majority thinks is our value? Please explain these three questions.

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Mercide. Thank you for your three questions. one: you and only you determines your value. It's your goal to like and appreciate yourself. Not the task of someone else. two: of course society will also value us, give us a salary, reward us or classify us. That's ok and this tells everything about the judger's preferences and needs. It does not tell anything about how we value ourselves from within us. three: again; your value depends of yourself. "If somebody else can decide what can happen within you right now - isn't this the ultimate slavery?" - sadhguru. I hope my answers to your question are helpful for you Mercide.

12 часов назад
Hawa Mohd
Hawa Mohd

My supervisor always critic me on how i handle my worker. I feel bad like i'm doing it just like how you teach me. But, why it's not enough.

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Hawa. I don't understand your question. could you explain it a bit more?

12 часов назад
Kiefer Moyaert
Kiefer Moyaert

Wow, as a ginger myself, this helped a lot!

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Super Kiefer Moyaert! Laat je door niets of niemand van je stuk brengen! Groeten in Torhout!

12 часов назад
Raquel Mejía
Raquel Mejía

I work at a call center, another prefect place to learn how to not take things personally

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Very true!

12 часов назад
Florinda Holmes
Florinda Holmes

tks

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

With pleasure Florinda!

12 часов назад
Abel Paré De Bellefeuille
Abel Paré De Bellefeuille

🌀©️®️™️🏴‍☠️🚨⛔️🕵🏻‍♀️😂

День назад
Justin Weaver
Justin Weaver

Seriously who are the people who thumbs downed this? This was a great talk that applies to probably 90% of people

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Justin. Thank you for your enthusiastic response. Maybe those people don't agree with my message or did not like my personality?

12 часов назад
Riadh eddine Boulahchich
Riadh eddine Boulahchich

even if they laugh at you, it's not about you they are just boosting their ego and think they are more cool than others

2 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Very true Riadh.

12 часов назад
Riadh eddine Boulahchich
Riadh eddine Boulahchich

it's okay if they are not interested, people have many agenda by their actions it's not just about you

2 дня назад
TH TK
TH TK

I recommended this video to a friend of mine after I watched it and found a great value. However, my friend took it personal.

2 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

How sad. Now you know how not to take his reaction personally!

12 часов назад
miki i am
miki i am

😆😆

2 дня назад
Олеся Ру
Олеся Ру

I like how he is nodding his head)

2 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

super!

12 часов назад
False Note Fest
False Note Fest

Hey don't do politics, you are english and you use an Euro ???!!!! I take that personally !

2 дня назад
False Note Fest
False Note Fest

@Frederik Imbo Hi I am french. I am happy to hear that you are using the Euro Deutch Mark in Belgium too. Your conference is very useful, thank you very much and you can punish French footballers because they are cheaters

10 часов назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi, I'm not British. I'm Belgian and we use Euros here.

12 часов назад
George Afleckket
George Afleckket

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2 дня назад
J
J

You will always know your value. the ending is very powerful.

2 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi J, Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

12 часов назад
Xavier Zayne
Xavier Zayne

So, should I take this guy seriously?

2 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Xavier. You can decide yourself whether you take my message seriously or not.

12 часов назад
Nova Jenkins
Nova Jenkins

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2 дня назад
Inday Jocelyn
Inday Jocelyn

why to low sound

2 дня назад
Savio Fernandes
Savio Fernandes

I took this video personally

2 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

haha Savio. Please don't.

12 часов назад
Naveen Mohan
Naveen Mohan

Beautifully said👏🏼

2 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Naveen Mohan. Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

12 часов назад
Florence Lecot
Florence Lecot

This should be teaches to every one, in primary schools or other schools. You are a genious Fred

2 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Florence! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

12 часов назад
Tanzeem Shabnam
Tanzeem Shabnam

he seems like a very kind person

2 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Well, I am... at least most this is what I aim for most of the times. Thanks Tanzeem.

12 часов назад
Sa Mya
Sa Mya

Who’s noticing he touched his stomach when he feeling bad??

2 дня назад
Slivress Sliver
Slivress Sliver

One of my biggest failings is taking things personally and becoming an irritated grump. I already knew this truth, but this video is going on my watchlist as a reminder, lol. Thank you!

2 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Slivress Silver, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

12 часов назад
Juniper
Juniper

Wow. This is actually incredibly insightful advice. As a sufferer of Borderline Personality Disorder, I tend to take the smallest slights with feelings of utter betrayal or abandonment. After watching this video, I’m going to try and put these practices conscientiously in my interactions with others. Great job man! Extraordinary thinking.

2 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you as someone who suffers from Borderline. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

12 часов назад
drgn
drgn

The video thumbnail looked like Prince Harry

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

haha! You're not the first one who thought so.

12 часов назад
t sam
t sam

Wearing leotards for pants. A real metrosexual soy-boy. Real men don't wear pants like those. Those are girlie pants.

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Thank you for your advise. However, I'm really ok with my pants.

12 часов назад
Rick Nelson
Rick Nelson

People fail not because they can`t deal with an outward situation it is the inner or mental conflict that defeats them.

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

very very true Rick. All the seawater in the world can't sink a ship, unless the ship takes on water. All the negativity in the world can't touch you, unless you let it.

12 часов назад
2 in the Box Podcast
2 in the Box Podcast

That finale was incredible. If you aren't able to understand that message, watch it again. Sometimes the easiest message needs to be repeated. There's no shame in that.

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi '2 in the Box Podcast', Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

12 часов назад
Craz Violin
Craz Violin

Very simple...to the point and very informative. I appreciate you

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Craz Violin, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

12 часов назад
abdulkareem abdullah
abdulkareem abdullah

i love this

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Thanks Abdulkareem Abdullah!

12 часов назад
Treasa Lynam
Treasa Lynam

20 pounds a month????????????????? That's personal!!!😅😅😂😅

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

haha! It's my choice.

3 дня назад
Deep N
Deep N

Totally relatable 💯... really needed this 🙌 🙏 tysm 💖

3 дня назад
Deep N
Deep N

😊🥰😊

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Deep N! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

3 дня назад
Raging Kid
Raging Kid

“OK fine..” — Michael Jordan

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

haha indeed!

3 дня назад
mister mister
mister mister

When someone flashes and honks behind me when i'm driving the godamn speed limit, I TAKE IT PERSONALY. Of course I'm considerate and take my time stoping the car and educate the other person with punches to the head or a bat to the windshield.

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Ok mister mister, go for it if this makes you happy.

3 дня назад
Renjit J
Renjit J

YouTube seems to be reading my thoughts! Highly relevant and well presented. The ending note tops it all up.

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Renjit J! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

3 дня назад
ghaza abdou
ghaza abdou

Who am I ?😞 why I exist?😔 What is my destiny?😢 These questions and made the whole world . You will find its solutions or answers only in Islam😃😍😇 The sad people in the universe are so many .. but in Islam you move from happiness to happiness … by mentioning Allah and loving him.😇 😍😇 What is the Islam💎.💖 What are its beliefs? Know the best Religion on earth, the nearest to Mans mind.💎 ❤😍 😇 💎What is the secret beyond Muslims prayers? Why the white man stand beside the block one? The rich man beside the poor one, all together like brothers?💎😍 ❤Allah will help you if you help your brother is one of prohet Mohammad sayings💎😍 😃 life has no meaning withot Islam as it guide you to a permanent purpose💎😍 -------- ❤Prayers are the means to get a psychological health(islamic principle)😍 ------- Do you want a peace of mind? Islam gives it to you as it tells you what you want to know about ur first & second life💎😍 *❤ Islam is the religion of equality .❤😍 ❤Let the sun of Islam shine in your heart💎😍 💎Islam is a religion of mercy that does not permit terrorism❤💖😍 💎Islam rejects certain indivisuals or nations being favored because of their wealth,power or race, but they are favored on basis of faith and piety💜😍 💖 💎A Muslim woman is flower that does not flag❤😍 💎Prophet Mohammed is a good example of the trustee, just,merciful,compassionate,honest and brave Muslim

3 дня назад
Jones Philip
Jones Philip

Hello everyone all thanks to Dr Aba for curing me from HIV am very grateful sir

3 дня назад
Just Another 30 Days
Just Another 30 Days

Wow.. nice speech. Thank you!

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi 'Just Another 30 Days', Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

3 дня назад
Roshan Varghese
Roshan Varghese

What if people tear you apart? Then the cash analogy does not work lol. Well I guess in that case, don't let people tear you apart

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

That's the spirit Roshan. Make sure that people don't let you tear apart.

3 дня назад
Angelina Jane
Angelina Jane

You should work in retail it will help you train harder 🤣🤣🤣

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Angelina! I think working in retail is a huuuuuuge challenge to not taking things personally.

3 дня назад
Zachary Pittman
Zachary Pittman

What if your in a conversation but the other person doesn't know your taking it personally because they don't care what anyone else says because there ego is to high

3 дня назад
Олд странствующий
Олд странствующий

I hate it when he asks something everyone is just silent

4 дня назад
Олд странствующий
Олд странствующий

@Frederik Imbo anyways, your performance was great and informative!

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

The audience was quite quiet indeed. That is because hardly any sound was recorded from the reactions in the room. As a result, some reactions were added afterwards in the editing. The silent audience makes many suspect that they didn't find it interesting ... And you know, that's possible. Or they didn't like my style, or they were tired, or... or... Anyway; whatever the reason was, luckily I didn't take that personally :-)

3 дня назад
Dhimitra Shukallari
Dhimitra Shukallari

👏

4 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Thank you Dhimitra!

3 дня назад
Alicia James
Alicia James

All thanks to Dr Osade on Youtube I got cured from herpes virus with the help of his herbal med

4 дня назад
Jack Whiting
Jack Whiting

I feel like this is how narcissistic people take advantage of people who can’t speak up for themselves. It’s a vicious tactic of ‘I’m right, you’re wrong’ no matter what. Speak up about how you feel and they’ll still call you wrong. Easy way to expose them. Call it ‘How to catch a narcissist’

4 дня назад
Olive racine peart Racine peart
Olive racine peart Racine peart

So are u agreeing with this or disagreeing?

2 дня назад
Angela Krause
Angela Krause

But..but..when someone insults you then says don’t take it personally???...one of my pet hates. I mean if it’s an actual insult. Happened to me recently.

4 дня назад
Angela Krause
Angela Krause

@Frederik Imbo thank you. Food for thought indeed🥰

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Angela. A very interesting question you have there. If the other one insults you, why would you take it personally. Just don't let the other one hurt you. I believe that even when someone is bashing you, the person's intention is positive... for themselves. They try to be bigger by trying to make someone smaller. They try to feel better by humiliating someone. It doesn't say anything about your value. It says a lot about the other person. If you really understand this, you will be able to feel less attacked by the bully. You'll see that he's only trying to compensate and react his own fear and feelings of inferiority. Of course, that doesn't mean that what you experience is nice. It might be very painful. BUT... then it means that this pain was already inside of you. The other one only touched that pain by saying what he said. So the key is to work on yourself by starting to be more gentle with yourself and give yourself compassion and develop your self love. If you do that, and become to truly love and appreciate yourself, the other can do whatever he wants, it will less and less hurt you, because you know that it isn't true. As long as it still hurts, it means that you're still struggling with yourself. All the seawater in the world can't sink a ship, unless the ship takes on water. All the negativity in the world can't touch you, unless you let it.

3 дня назад
Angela Krause
Angela Krause

I can hear a high pitched signal during this video. Just searched my whole house to find out where it was coming from🤣 Thought I had tinnitus starting.

4 дня назад
Angela Krause
Angela Krause

@Frederik Imbo maybe it was just me. I pick up on high frequency noises easily. I will try another device and let you know.

День назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Angela. Sorry to read that there was a highly picked droning that disturbed you so much. I have no idea where it came from. Could you try to listen to my talk with another device and tell me whether you have still the same? It's so strange. Only a minority of people apparently hear that annoying noise.

3 дня назад
Kalin Gergov
Kalin Gergov

this guy couldnt take a more perfect crowd to show how not to take it personaly.. they didnt interract with him AT ALL...

4 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Kalin. The audience was quite quiet indeed. That is because hardly any sound was recorded from the reactions in the room. As a result, some reactions were added afterwards in the editing. The silent audience makes many suspect that they didn't find it interesting ... And you know, that's possible. Or they didn't like my style, or they were tired, or... or... Anyway; whatever the reason was, luckily I didn't take that personally :-)

3 дня назад
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Thanks2 USA

/can you keep your value if there is inflation? I like this lesson and will try to use it, but if someone hurts my family I don't know if the coin will work, unless im 2face lol

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Prachi Namdev

By not taking things personally

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kevin clark

That was beautiful about always keeping your value.

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There's a balance between this and taking things personally, without that boundaries would be crossed

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Amari Kinyanjui
Amari Kinyanjui

Frederik: How not to take things personally Michael Jordan: “And I took that personally”

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Amari Kinyanjui
Amari Kinyanjui

Frederik: How not to take things personally Michael Jordan: “And I took that personally”

4 дня назад
sayantan Paul
sayantan Paul

@Frederik Imbo how Do we let discouragement not effect us... How can I not take that personally?

2 дня назад
Nathan Gebreselassie
Nathan Gebreselassie

@Frederik Imbo I don't take things personally because I don't really care whether people hate me or whatever, cause it doesn't really matter to be honest with myself.

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Haha indeed Amari. If you know him personally, send him a personal message. At the same time; Michael Jordan only tried to do his very best. He tried to deal with his unfulfilled needs of recognition. He just wanted to be valued. Hi Sadia! Yes! I try to respond to every comment. It's the least thing I can do to thank someone for their time to watch my TEDx talk and to have sent me a personal message. I'm glad that you appreciate this.

3 дня назад
MeltingBlowfish
MeltingBlowfish

Yo I’m high af and when I saw the thumbnail I thought his hand was the back of his neck and that he had some kind of deformity

4 дня назад
Latiel Bobadilla
Latiel Bobadilla

Upon looking on the Thumbnail. I thought he's Lucifer from Supernatural.

4 дня назад
Kakyoin
Kakyoin

It actually kind of works, I'm impressed.

4 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Kakyoin. Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

3 дня назад
Alexandria C.
Alexandria C.

I got goosebumps at the end. I’ll be teaching this to my children. We often forget the simple messages the universe tells us.

4 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Alexandria. Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

3 дня назад
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Michael Jordan should see this

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Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Haha indeed. If you know him personally, send him a personal message. At the same time; Michael Jordan only tried to do his very best. He tried to deal with his unfulfilled needs of recognition. He just wanted to be valued. Hi Sadia! Yes! I try to respond to every comment. It's the least thing I can do to thank someone for their time to watch my TEDx talk and to have sent me a personal message. I'm glad that you appreciate this.

3 дня назад
Eliza Tasnim Ema
Eliza Tasnim Ema

🌈✨ this video is really helpful for me to glow up

4 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Eliza! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

3 дня назад
S Skylight
S Skylight

If anyone knows of any other helpful videos like this Tedtalk that deal with issues like rejection, criticism, self esteem and respect, please share them :) Many thanks in advance

4 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi S Skylight! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

3 дня назад
S Skylight
S Skylight

What a lovely, helpful talk. Thank you Frederik

4 дня назад
Hilal C
Hilal C

Wow! His speech was incredible, it really opened my eyes

4 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Hilal! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

3 дня назад
CAT Cas
CAT Cas

Bad audio

4 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Sorry to read this. Did you try on another device?

3 дня назад
Zathael_in_black
Zathael_in_black

I live by myself. I always have and always will. Why? Because I'm all about me.

4 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

If this makes you happy, go for it!

3 дня назад
Blovett-
Blovett-

Nice to see Kevin De Bruyne's dad is also involved in football

4 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Blovett. Kevin DeBruyne was born in 1991. I was born in 1975. So technically, that's possible... However, I can reassure you: I'm not his father. However, we are both from Belgium. Anyway, thx for the funny suggestion, and no worries; I didn't take it personally.

3 дня назад
Eternal Atake
Eternal Atake

13:57 In this segment, I'm quite sure he refers to children with narcissistic parents. Narcissistic parents need to keep you (child) under manipulation, they can't have you (child) be succesfull without their help, they like attention coz they are narcissists, duh. So they try to make their child think they need their parents, indepence of child is dangerous for the manipulative parents. I can relate to this, because I've had to deal with extremely narcissistic parents. *So how do the parents do it?* They constantly observe and judge their children's every move and any pushback (against authority, even questioning authority) is punished by the parents, this causes the child to think he/she is never good enough. Then they like to give stuff to their child, then later to blackmail them later, or even going as far to take back the stuff that was given to them as a means of punishment, blackmailing they do whenever they like to, if multiple sisters or brothers, they might even give you toys to your brother or sister as punishment or te create competition for the parents attention. *Situational example:* Parent tells child off for everything, even though the child might've only dropped that 'thing' on accident the parents still tell them: "Don't ever do that again, or say sorry for destroying it". So they make the child feel like him/her -self is the burden, even though the parents are the burden for not understanding it was just an accident. Narcissistic parents, grew up with narcistic parents, I describe them as people who are constantly jealouse people who can't have you think or be better then themselves, usually those type of parents think (and try to make their children think) their children are an extention of them, as this boosts their ego and if the child has any good qualities the parent can brag about it and say: "you are like me, I was also good in that or even go as far as telling other people that they taught their children everything.

5 дней назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Eternal Atake. Thank you for sharing your ideas. Very interesting. I think a lot of children suffer from parents who don't give them unconditional love and do not encourage them to be independent. And they don't do that because they are bad people. No, they just havent' received the unconditional love from their parents either.

3 дня назад
Mauro Gilson Spacenkopf
Mauro Gilson Spacenkopf

13:13 Queiroz take it personally.

5 дней назад
jaz d
jaz d

"If somebody else can decide what can happen within you right now - isn't this the ultimate slavery?" - sadhguru.

5 дней назад
Agent Smith
Agent Smith

sadhguru is ridiculous. I checked his stuff out and he's just embracing the guru life style and rocking the life lol. I'm Smithguru now! Ask me anything I'll give you a better answer. I went to guru school.

День назад
jaz d
jaz d

@Frederik Imbo you're most welcome ☺

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

wow! Very true! Thank you Jaz D!

3 дня назад
Abusaad Khan
Abusaad Khan

It's not about me ❤😌

5 дней назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

that's the spirit Abusaad!

3 дня назад
Somesh M
Somesh M

How not to take things personally? Answer- become a football referee

5 дней назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Yes!

3 дня назад
Steve Scott
Steve Scott

Don’t take this personally but there’s a high pitch tone throughout this video and someone should scrub it from the soundtrack...

5 дней назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Steve. Sorry to read that there was a highly picked droning that disturbed you so much. I have no idea where it came from. Could you try to listen to my talk with another device and tell me whether you have still the same? It's so strange. Only a minority of people apparently hear that annoying noise. Hopefully you'll be able to listen to it properly on another device without any hassle.

3 дня назад
Monika Tk
Monika Tk

I took everything personally n it kills me.. Menntally drain out😥

5 дней назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Monika. I really hope then that my talk could give you some insights and tips. Good luck!

3 дня назад
anonymer Regenschirm
anonymer Regenschirm

👍🏻👍🏻

5 дней назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Thank you!

3 дня назад
Elaine Villanueva
Elaine Villanueva

"If i try to see the intention of the other one. I make space for the understanding instead of irritation." Noted ❤

5 дней назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Elaine! That' the spirit!

3 дня назад
manualLaborer
manualLaborer

Rule #1 - be born a sociopath.

5 дней назад
Jesal Jadeja
Jesal Jadeja

Am i the only one who’s hearing the background static noise?

5 дней назад
Jesal Jadeja
Jesal Jadeja

@Frederik Imbo don’t worry about it, i was just checking to see if I’ve gone bonkers or not!! i heard your talk and it helped me in a big way bc i had recently gone through a bad situation.

3 дня назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Hi Jesal. Sorry to read that there was a highly picked droning that disturbed you so much. I have no idea where it came from. Could you try to listen to my talk with another device and tell me whether you have still the same? It's so strange. Only a minority of people apparently hear that annoying noise. Hopefully you'll be able to listen to it properly on another device without any hassle.

3 дня назад
Xendrius
Xendrius

I took this video persoanlly.

5 дней назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Please... Don't!

3 дня назад
Xendrius
Xendrius

@Zachary Pittman Was a joke, but what isnt a joke is that iluminati is behind covid, read the 25 iluminati goals.

3 дня назад
Zachary Pittman
Zachary Pittman

How do you take this personaly so far I haven't herd him say anything wrong in my opinion

3 дня назад
jaydon new
jaydon new

why do you only have 20 likes? smh

4 дня назад
Becky
Becky

why do you only have 20 likes? smh

4 дня назад
zackstar Abdirizaq
zackstar Abdirizaq

Who else Thinks that The public speaker looks like kelvin Debrune (KDB)

5 дней назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

Haha, I'll add that name to the list of celebrities I seem to resemble. According to some people I look like Kevin Debruyne (soccer player) James Faulkner (cricket player) Boris Becker (tennis player) Peter schmeichel (soccer goalkeeper) TinTin (cartoon character) Prince Harry Arthur Weasley (a character in Harry Potter) Mitchell Pritchett (Modern Family) Sebastian vettel (Formule 1 pilot) Kevin McKidd (actor in Grey's anatomy) Jonny Bairstow (cricket player)

3 дня назад
Drake Ring
Drake Ring

Thought he was going to teach me how to get stuff from fridge without getting up to take things from it personally but ok. This will do too.

5 дней назад
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo

super! Good luck applying the tips and insights!

3 дня назад

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